In this post, I’ll discuss the why and how of this decision in detail. My goal is to gradually change my diet, so that by the end of 2010 I won’t be eating any dead animals anymore. A 100% plant based diet would be ideal, but I’m not sure I could go that far yet, so my goal is just to eliminate all meat from my diet.

If you’re a seasoned vegetarian, please feel free to post advice and suggestions for an aspiring lacto-vegetarian, especially if your diet is low in grains and low or moderate in carbs! I might need your advice!

Why Vegetarian: The Trouble with Meat

My decision to give up meat has nothing to do with health. It’s purely a spiritual and ethical decision. Actually, if it wasn’t for health issues, I’d be a vegan already!

While I believe it’s natural for animals (including humans) to eat other animals, I think the way we humans treat them is everything but natural. Factory farming, enslaving and breeding animals just so we’d get food, is unnecessary, cruel, and totally despicable. Animals should be able to live a happy, natural life.

Why Omnivore, Then?

Despite this ethical problem, I’ve been eating meat, simply because I don’t feel well on a vegetarian diet. I feel the best when I’m on a low carb, high animal fat, and moderate protein diet, very rich in low to moderate carb vegetables. When I went on this relaxed low carb, high animal fat diet on 2007, I experienced so many health benefits it was incredible.

I’ve done a few vegetarian diet experiments and I’ve felt miserable during them… Even though I know I’ve gotten plenty of protein from various plant-based sources, I’ve eaten a variety of veggies, grains, nuts, legumes, seeds and so on, and I’ve made sure I got adequate calories.

At the moment, the choice seems to be suffering: either the animals will suffer or I’ll do. And, let’s be honest here, I’m selfish. My personal health and well-being is more important for me than the well-being of other animals. That’s why I’ve just eaten meat, although I’m aware of all the dark sides of meat eating. Sorry. But at least I’m being honest here.

Last year, however, something incredible happened. It changed my views for good.

The Spiritual Healing Incident: I Got Healed?

Last summer, I was healing a sick plant with my energy. Yes, I do seem to be gifted with some healing abilities, but know I’d need some more practice to take full advantage of them.

The plant healed successfully, but something strange happened right after it: I suddenly lost my appetite for meat. It’s as if a switch suddenly went off in my head! For a couple of weeks, I simply wasn’t able to force myself to eat dead animals, so I was a lacto-vegetarian for three weeks.

The Vegetarian Experiment

Spiritually, I felt fantastic during this time. My psychic powers got a huge boost, and I also felt good about not eating dead, tortured animals. I also felt a surge in creativity, probably because I was eating more carbs than before.

Physically, though, I didn’t feel well. I had to eat every two hours or I got so hungry I nearly fainted, which was very annoying because I’ve gotten used to eating every 4-6 hours. My skin also got worse, I lost a little weight but became bloated, my blood sugar levels changed too much (sugar highs and crashes, hunger pangs), and my stomach objected to all those grains and legumes. You don’t want the details. Let’s just say I emitted quite a bit of greenhouse gases during that experiment.

I quit the experiment when I got the symptoms of a flu, something I’ve always gotten after a couple of weeks during my vegetarian experiments. If I eat my usual low carb, high animal fat food, I never get sick. This time, I didn’t want to endure the upcoming flu, so I quickly went back to my old eating habits, and the flu symptoms vanished. As did my skin and stomach problems.

Something Changed for Good…

Something changed for good, though. That was the first time in my life I seriously considered the possibility I might give up meat one day, even though my body seems to need it. Since then, I’ve eaten a little less meat, and every now and then I have days when I just feel I don’t want to eat any meat.

I’ve called the Law of Attraction to help me. I set out the intention of being a vegan and I often visualize being one. Since I began doing that, my appetite for meat has just kept going down. My motivation and mental need for becoming a vegetarian has become stronger and stronger – so strong I know it’ll overcome the physical problems eventually.

I know it will happen some day when I’m ready, but as much as I’d want to go cold turkey on all animal products, I know it’s not reasonable. Therefore, I’ve decided to listen to my body and spirit, and go along as they want. I believe that if I gradually change my diet, my stomach might get used to vegetarian food.

I’ll just need to get around my perfectionism. I either want to do everything by the book, or I won’t do it at all. I would totally want to go cold turkey on meat and all animal products and become a strict vegan, just so I could slap a label called vegan on myself, but I know it’s not sensible. A gradual approach seems to be the best one.

My Meat Free Plan

Ok, guys, this is where I need your help! But first, I will “officially” state my goal:

My goal is to gradually change my diet, so that by the end of 2010, I won’t be eating any dead animals anymore. A 100% plant based diet would be ideal, but I don’t think I can go that far yet, so my goal is only to eat food that doesn’t have to be killed before I can eat it. This would mean I can include milk and honey into my diet, and maybe eggs, too.

I promise to be merciful with myself and take care of the needs of my body, not just my mind and spirit. I’ll remind myself not to strive for some “ideal vegan diet” or to be “pure”, I will just gradually eliminate animals from my diet. If I feel the need to eat meat, I will do so, but I’ll look for fish and eggs as my first choices of animal protein.

Some things might need clarification.

Why eggs, you may ask. Eggs aren’t fertilized so they’re not dead animals, unless you intentionally buy fertilized eggs from a health store. No, this isn’t a cop-out, honestly! I’m not that big a fan of eggs so I don’t need any excuses to eat them. But during the healing incident, when I just wasn’t able to eat any meat, I was able to eat eggs for the first couple of days. I wondered why but I guess it was because they weren’t fertilized.

Honey won’t be a big issue, either. I use very little honey anyway, so I’m not going to pay much attention to it until I’ll be eliminating all animal based products from my diet. The same goes for obscure food additives that may be of animal origin – if something is hidden behind an E number, I won’t stress about it.

Fish and milk will be my biggest issues.

Got Milk? I Do. Here’s Why

I’m painfully aware that drinking milk isn’t any more ethical than eating the cow herself. It would be ideal – both health-wise and ethically – to have access to raw, unpasteurized and unhomogenized milk of a free-range, grass-fed cow. Unfortunately, I don’t have access to any at the moment.

1. Cheese! Actually, I drink very little milk because I can’t stand the taste. However, I’m a huge cheese aficionado and I can’t see myself letting go of that pleasure anytime soon! (Look, I’m still not claiming to be totally selfless, ok? )

2. Healthy fats. I think dairy fat is healthy for you and keeps you thin. Yes, I know my opinion is rather unorthodox, but it’s based on my personal experiences and some diet studies.

3. Cream and butter. I cook with butter and real full-fat cream, and I’m not going to touch any margarines or those horrible, unnatural cream substitutes. I’m not quite sure how healthy the milk of a tortured cow is but unfortunately, I think it’s way healthier than any of those vegetable oil based substitutes. At least it tastes better, and I’ve learned to trust my taste on health issues.

4. Calories. Also, during my vegetarian experiments, I’ve noticed I just can’t get enough fat if I eat vegan food. If I use vegetable oil in cooking, it tastes icky greasy if I add a lot of it – yes, even good quality extra virgin olive oil. The same goes for soy cream – it’s actually pretty tasty, but still tastes icky greasy compared to real cream, even though it has 50% less fat. As a result, I can’t get enough fat and I’ll be starving. If I substitute those fat calories with carb calories, I’ll need to eat every 2-3 hours, and I don’t like that either.

Adding dairy products into my diet seems to make a huge difference: I feel so much better on vegetarian food if I can add cheese, butter and cream into my diet… even though the combination of grains and dairy seem to generate mucus and a foul taste in my mouth. Dairy without grains, or grains without dairy won’t do this. But it’s a small inconvenience, so I guess I can take it.

So, despite my ethical objections to how milk is produced, I’ll be aspiring to be a lacto-vegetarian, mostly for health reasons but also for some culinary reasons.

Fish vs. Eggs

At the moment, I feel horrible – mentally and emotionally – if I eat any sort of meat. Eating meat feels more repulsive each day. Interestingly, it’s began feeling worse physically, too.

For the last week or so, I’ve been eating mostly lacto-vegetarian food already, but I will feel weak and hungry if I don’t eat any meat, so I’ve eaten some kind of meat once a day. It’s been mostly pork and poultry because that’s what we’ve got in our freezer. However, I’m not sure how long I’ll be able to eat them.

It seems, at the moment, that fish is the only kind of meat I can eat. It’s fortunate, too, because fish is a nice source of Omega 3 fatty acids. I also believe that if I just have to choose between two evils, eating fish might be a little more ethical than eating eggs (unless they’re pastured eggs from a local farmer or something, but I don’t have access to those). Also, at the moment, I can stomach eating fish but for some reason, eggs repulse me.

So, it seems fish will be the last meat on my menu. I guess I could call myself a lacto-pesco-vegetarian now, but I don’t like the label, because it’s an oxymoron. The words pesco and vegetarian kind of contradict each other over there, no? I’ll just call myself the omnivore I still am, no fancy labels with foreign words here.

How about Nutrition?

I realized I didn’t really discuss nutrition in this post. This one’s already at a marathon length, so I’ll save the nutritional discussion for a later post. I’ll be following the general nutritional guidelines I discussed in my diet goal and guidelines post, so nothing new there, except for the details.

In my next diet post, I’ll tackle the following issues:

• My protein/carb/fat ratio. Yes, I’ve learned to listen to my body pretty well, so during my previous diet experiments, I’ve been able to come up with the best ratio for me.
• How I know it when my proteins, fats and carbs are ok. Yes, I’ll give you some tips on how to do it yourself.
• Fats: How I’ll keep my Omega 6 / Omega 3 fatty acid ratio in check.
• Processed foods: Because I want to keep my food as natural and unprocessed as possible, I won’t be gorging on mock meats or highly processed soy products at every meal.
• Protein: Where I’ll be getting my protein from.
• Carbs: My diet will be a little higher in carbs than usually, because it’s going to be lower in fat and because all the best sources of unprocessed plant protein also contain lots of carbs.
• Vitamins: Shouldn’t be an issue, really.
• Fiber: Definitely not an issue! I’ll get plenty of it from nuts, legumes, veggies, and whole grains.

With a vegetarian diet, it would be ridiculously easy to meet the official dietary recommendations of our government, with flying marks. However, that’s the problem. I’m totally not going to follow any official dietary recommendations because they’re a total disaster and I’ll feel horribly unhealthy if I follow them.

That’s why I’ve gotta make my own.

Expect to read musings about the following:

1. General guidelines for a diet I believe is the healthiest one for me and for everyone. Yes, you too!
2. Confused musings about the more controversial diet issues: why I’m not quite sure about them but how I feel about them anyway.
3. Why I feel there is no One True Perfect Diet™ that would magically make everyone healthy.
4. A summary of my diet goals for 2010.

Guidelines for a Healthy Diet

When it comes to a healthy diet, there are certain things most people, both “diet gurus” and scientists alike, seem to agree on. These are the points I also agree on, based on my very own diet experiments and some scientific research articles I’ve read:

• Veggies are good for you. Eat them as much as you want. No, actually, eat them more than you want!
• Protein is good for you. Eat enough of it! It keeps you feeling full longer, and your muscles need the building blocks. Just don’t overdo it. A good rule of thumb for your daily protein needs would be 1 gram of protein per 1 kilogram of bodyweight.
• Trans fats (partially hydrogenated vegetable oils) are bad for you. They’re worse than any other kind of fat out there. Don’t eat them. At all. Seriously, even butter, lard and bacon are better for your health than this stuff!
• Sugar is bad for you. It makes you fat, messes up your metabolism, causes Type 2 diabetes, rots your teeth, and is bad for your heart and arteries. White flour and white rice are basically the same thing as sugar, so they’re bad for you as well. Eat them in moderation.
• Natural, unprocessed foods are good for you. The less something is processed and the less it contains artificial additives, the better it is for you. A good rule of thumb is to buy only the kind of stuff your great-grandmother would recognize as food!
• Use alcohol in moderation. Moderate drinking is good for your health, but drinking too much pretty much ruins it. Plus it makes you look older than you are. Drink moderately or don’t drink at all.

These guidelines, I believe, are pretty much universally agreed on. Next, I’ll discuss the more controversial issues and tell you how I personally feel about them.

Healthy or Not?

Sometimes, diet seems to be like religion: people fiercely defend their personal opinions and believe their view is the only right one. Scientific research isn’t helping much here, since you can find a completely valid, well executed scientific study supporting pretty much any view you can think of. Just cherry-pick the articles that support your personal view, and you’re doing well.

That’s why I believe scientific research articles should always be read with a grain of salt.

The following are the things I’m currently undecided on. Actually, on some issues, I’m totally torn! I’ve read quite a bit of scientific articles on these issues, and it doesn’t seem to help anything, as the research findings seem to nicely contradict each other. I’ve learned to listen to the ultimate authority on these issues, and I suggest you do the same: your very own body!

• Meat. I have a spiritual problem with eating dead animals. While I know nature operates like this – animals eating each other – we humans are capable of thinking about the moral consequences of our actions, unlike other animals who just follow their instinct. Also, it should go without saying that factory farming is unnatural, unethical, and cruel. However, I’ve noticed I feel the best when I eat a lot of meat and animal fats. If I try to eat vegetarian food, I become sick, even if all my meals are “perfect” according to the book. Despite this, one of my goals for 2010 is to reduce the amount of meat I eat, but I’ll discuss this issue later in another blog post.
• Milk. I don’t drink milk because I hate the taste but I do enjoy cheese and other dairy products. Plus I think butter is healthy. (Yeah, this would need its own blog post too.) Unfortunately, milk is pretty much ruined: cows are suffering for their whole lives, raped so they will constantly produce milk, pumped full of hormones and antibiotics, and on top of that, the milk is pasteurized and homogenized. Raw milk from a happy free-range cow might be healthy for you, but how about this stuff that is totally ruined? And how about cheese?
• Carbs vs. Fats. The high carb, low fat diet is recommended for us, but I’ve noticed it just doesn’t suit me. Whenever I’ve tried to eat that way, it’s been a total disaster. I’m thriving on a low (or moderate) carb, high (or moderate) fat diet. Recent research also seems to support the notion of limiting your carb intake, but instead of contradictory scientific research, I’ll just listen to the highest authority on this issue: my own body. And it tells me to eat low carb, high animal fat.
• Saturated fats vs. unsaturated fats. This is a complex issue that would, again, need its own blog post. (Maybe some day… ) The thing is, if you get most of your fats from vegetable oils, your Omega 3 / Omega 6 fatty acid ratio will tend to get totally messed up. You’ll get too much Omega 6 fatty acids compared to Omega 3s if vegetable oils are your main source of fat. Despite the bad rap they’ve been getting, animal fats and saturated vegetable fats (such as coconut milk and oil) seem to be a safe choice.
• Grains. Whole grains are supposed to be good for you. They contain a lot of fiber, vitamins and minerals, and are a nice source of protein for vegetarians. But if I eat too much of them, I’ll get all kinds of stomach problems, and – believe it or not – pimples! For me, “too much” is the 6-9 pieces of bread my government recommends eating! A couple of pieces seem to be fine, though.
• Cooked vs. raw food. I believe in a balance in this matter. Some nutrients actually become easier to absorb when they’re heated. Some other nutrients will be destroyed if they’re heated. So I’ll just eat both raw and cooked.

The Ideal Diet for Everyone – Does Such a Thing Exist?

Let’s look at the facts here. The fact is, humans are omnivores who are capable of surviving on a huge variety of diets.

Our species has spread wide and far, ranging from warm tropical and subtropical climates to the harsh, cold conditions of the North and the tops of mountains. Peoples have adapted to a diet most sensible for their geographical location: lots of meat, fat and root vegetables in the North; lots of fruits, veggies and rice near the Equator.

Kitava: Healthy and High Carb

For example, Kitavans are known to be very healthy. They get about 69% of their calories from carbs, 21% from fat and 10% from protein. I’m a Low Carber myself, but the Kitavan example simply shows that low carb is not the only way to eat. As the Kitavan diet shows, you can be perfectly healthy on a high carb diet as well.

Interestingly, however, the fat Kitavans consume is mostly saturated because it comes from coconuts. They also eat a lot of fish, so they get plenty of healthy Omega 3 fatty acids, too.

Inuits: Healthy with No Veggies

Then again, Inuits are also known to be very healthy if they stay on their traditional diet. If they begin eating the current Western way, they’ll begin suffering from diabetes and heart problems. Their traditional diet? Totally against all dietary recommendations: Mostly meat and fat, not much vegetables, a little berries now and then. The traditional Inuit diet is high in protein and very high in fat: about 75% of their calories come from fat.

Despite not eating veggies, Inuits can get all the vitamins they need from the animals they fish and hunt because they eat every part of them, not just the muscle meat like we Westerners do. They eat the fat and organs, as well as skin and intestines and brain and everything.

Traditional Vegan Diets?

How about vegan, then? Interestingly, there are no peoples out there whose traditional diets would be 100% plant-based. Even in India, where traditionally a significant portion of population are vegetarians, vegetarianism means lacto-vegetarianism.

However, it seems to be totally possible to thrive on a strictly vegetarian diet, provided you take care of your B12 vitamin and Omega 3 fatty acid intake.

The Bottom Line? Eat What Makes You Feel Well!

So, humans seem to be a species that can adapt to a wide variety of diets. You can’t just point out one single way of eating and say, this is the one and only way for a human to eat. Don’t make diet your religion.

What to do, then? Experiment! Experiment with diets and find out what is the diet that fits you, personally.

Eat what makes you feel good, healthy, and energetic. I personally believe that constantly stressing out about your food is the surefire way to lose your health, no matter what you eat! I believe mental factors (stress, happiness, etc.) are much more important for our heart health than we think. It’s a pity this isn’t researched more. Then again, who would want to fund a study that would show you don’t have to spend money on supplements and diet pills, all you have to do is relax and enjoy your life?

The Trouble with Meat

Like I said, I’m at my healthiest when I eat a lot of animal meat and fat, no grains of any kind, and a low or moderate amount of carbs. However, I have big ethical and spiritual problems with eating dead animals. My goal is to gradually reduce the amount of meat I eat, and if everything goes well, I might be a lacto-vegetarian by the end of 2010.

I’ll discuss the reasons behind this decision in my next post, so… stay tuned!

Diet Goal in a Nutshell

These are the things I’ll be concentrating on during the next year:

• Drink less alcohol. I genuinely enjoy the taste of certain alcoholic beverages (like fine wine, Scotch, cognac, wheat beer…) but to be honest, I also enjoy the “side effects” they produce. My goal is to cut back the amount of drinks per night, so that I would get no hangovers, blackouts, or loss of control when I go out and party.
• Gradually eat less meat. Whenever I feel like not eating meat, I will not do so, but if I feel I need it, I’ll do as my body commands and won’t feel bad about it.
• Eat at least one meat free meal per day. Dairy is ok, however, so this should be very easy to do. Yes, I know dairy is no more ethical than eating the meat of the poor cow herself, but at least it’s not a dead animal.
• Eat veggies on every meal. No, potatoes don’t count. During the long cold winters here in Finland, it doesn’t really make sense to eat fresh veggies, so until it gets warmer, I’ll eat the frozen ones mostly. Fresh veggies are, at the moment, very expensive, of poor quality, and transported from the other side of Europe.
• Cook your food yourself whenever possible. It’s a lot healthier. Besides, I love cooking!
• Watch out for MSG and other additives. I’m not going to be too strict about this, but whenever possible, I’ll choose the product that has less additives or artificial flavor enhancers. But because I aim at cooking most of my food from scratch myself, this won’t be an issue. Besides, like I said, I don’t want to fret about my food too much.
• Take care of your Omega 3s. I’ve got some fish oil capsules, so I’ll pop those in my mouth. Also, I’ll take vitamin D supplements, too.
• Most importantly: Relax, don’t fret about your diet! Enjoy your food with gratitude!

That’s it, folks. I didn’t list things like not eating sugar, because I eat so little sugar it would be a no-brainer anyway. The same goes for white flour – I already eat it in moderation because my skin and stomach don’t like it.

So how are you going to eat? What’s your view of a healthy diet?

In my previous post, I explained why gratitude is such a powerful force and how I was able to attract more money into my life by simply cultivating gratitude.

In this post, I’ll give you 7 practical tips on how to cultivate the attitude of gratitude.

1. Think Small

Thinking big is great of course, but when it comes to cultivating gratitude, you really gotta notice all the small things, too. No matter what your life is like, you’re always surrounded by things that make you happy. Things you can feel grateful for. All you have to do is open your eyes and see!

Why focus on the small things? Simply because your goal is to be in a state of grateful happiness and abundance for as much as you can. To attract more abundance into your life, you need to cultivate the mindset of abundance. You cultivate it by noticing the abundance that is already surrounding you. If you’re always waiting for something bigger and better, you’ll never be in the mindset of abundance that is important for the Law of Attraction to work.

Besides, even if you finally got that spankin’ new BMW to replace that old car you absolutely hated driving (although it worked fine), would you be happy and grateful? No, you’d be waiting for that Ferrari. Stuff doesn’t make you happy. Your appreciation for it makes you happy.

2. Be Aware

To notice all those small things around you, you need to become more aware of both your surroundings and your feelings. This way, you can identify the things and people that contribute to your happiness.

You’re always surrounded by many small everyday things that do make your life better. Unfortunately, most of us take them for granted! Got a roof to live under, running water, and an internet connection? Many people don’t have those. If you can feel grateful for all the small things, if you can notice the abundance that is surrounding you, you will find yourself being constantly grateful.

For example, I’m so grateful for my early morning routine I always get up an hour earlier than I have to so I can enjoy my morning moments in peace: a quiet house, cuppa coffee, laptop, and the rising sun peeking through the curtains. I’m also grateful for living near a river so I can take relaxing, soothing walks alongside the beautiful river and nature any time I wish. I’m so grateful for having a wonderful husband, loving family, and great friends. I’m grateful I am surrounded by love.

Gratitude isn’t rocket science. It’s everyday Zen.

Of course I’m not telling you that you should just be floating in a constant state of grateful bliss, totally ignoring the bad things about your life, never improving anything. I’m suggesting the total opposite.

When you become more aware of your surroundings and your feelings, you’ll not only become aware of the things you feel grateful for. You’ll also become aware of the things that make you unhappy. Be honest about them. Don’t ignore them while focusing on the things that make you happy. Find practical ways of taking charge of your life and changing the things you don’t like! I’ll talk about this more in the 7th tip.

3. Make a List

Each day, make a list of 10 things you are grateful for. This helps you notice all the things that make you happy. Even if you had a crappy day, you’re “forced” to find something you’re grateful for. On those days, I’m especially grateful for my list making routine.

Every night before going to bed, I make a list of 10 things that made me feel grateful for that day. I write the list on my computer because it’s more convenient that way, but if you like a paper journal, that’s totally fine as well. Just write them down!

You can make a simple list of keywords or write down complete sentences, whichever suits your style. I prefer complete sentences, often beginning with something like

• “I am grateful for…”
• “I feel blessed…”
• “I thank [the universe, God, myself, a friend, etc.] for…”

Well, you get the idea. Let your imagination run wild!

Avoid using negatives. Your subconscious mind doesn’t really understand the word not, so it usually just ignores it. So don’t write something like “I am grateful I’m not sick” because your brain tends to skip the not part and turn it into “I am grateful I’m sick.” Instead, use positives, such as “I am grateful I’m healthy.”

For each item on the list, feel the gratitude flowing through yourself while writing it down. For example, the gratitude I feel is often so overwhelming it makes me cry! Make this list right before going to bed, so that you can go to sleep feeling happy, contented, loved. This gives your subconscious something to work on during the night.

For example, on a typical day, the items on my list may look like this:

• I feel blessed for the delicious, nourishing sushi I had today.
• I thank my dear husband for loving and supporting me.
• I feel grateful for having a working computer with an internet connection.
• I feel blessed for the big concert I was able to enjoy today.
• I feel blessed to have a healthy, attractive body.

See? These are mostly small things. Of course, this doesn’t mean you shouldn’t write down any big things. If something big happens, by all means, write it down!

4. Turbo Charge Everything with Good Intentions

Whenever you’re doing something to improve your life or that of others, load it with good intentions. If you’re cleaning the house, feel grateful that you can make your home clean, cozy, and beautiful. If you’re exercising, feel grateful for doing something to make you healthier and stronger. If you’re about to meet an old friend, load the meeting with the intentions of expressing love and receiving love in turn. If you’re cooking, focus on making a delicious, enjoyable meal that nourishes your body and mind.

5. Pray. Yes, you too, Atheists!

You know how religious people pray before eating or before going to bed? Well, you don’t have to be religious in order to use the power of prayer!

I don’t believe in a personal god myself, so I certainly don’t thank any god for my food or ask for them to protect my dreams before I go to sleep. However, I often found myself feeling so grateful for my food that I just wanted to spend a moment thanking for it. For you, food may be mere sustenance, but I use it as an example here because I personally love cooking and eating.

But who to thank if you don’t want to talk to a god? Here are some ideas that I use:

• Thank Mother Nature for giving you Her fruits and crops to eat. Accept Her gifts with gratitude.
• Thank the animals that gave you their milk or their life so you can nourish your body.
• Thank the universe (or God, Source, Oneness) for taking care of you.
• Thank the chef. If you’re the chef, thank yourself!

I don’t pray before going to bed but if you feel like saying thanks for your day, go ahead! Of course you can do it any time you’re about to do something you enjoy so much you want to thank for it. For example, I could imagine saying a thank you prayer if I’m about to open a nice, high quality bottle of some of my favorite Scotch whisky. And perhaps ask for protection so I don’t drink too much of it.

Sounds crazy? Hey, don’t take life so seriously!

6. Be Happy for Your Friends

Avoid jealousy like the swine flu! Jealousy is based on the mindset of scarcity: that resources are so limited there aren’t enough of them for everyone. That if someone is happy and succeeds, it will automatically be deducted from your happiness. If you cultivate the mindset of abundance, however, you know that everyone can get their share.

Why feel jealous if, for example, your friend gets married? There are still plenty of fantastic men and women you can meet. Why limit the options by fixating on one? If you do so, you’re operating from the mindset of scarcity. Your friend got a huge business opportunity? Great! Feel happy for them! There are many opportunities out there, but if you only focus on feeling bad about that opportunity your friend seized, you probably won’t notice all the opportunities waiting for you out there.

If something wonderful happens to your friends, feel grateful for them! Their happiness is your happiness, too. Aren’t you happier when you can be surrounded by happy people?

Sometimes this sharing of happiness is very concrete. For example, a good friend of ours finally overcame his financial troubles and hit it big time with his company. We had borrowed him some money while he was struggling, and now he was finally able to pay the money back – just when we needed it. Also, my hubby got the opportunity to do some freelance work for him and his company – even more money for us! On top of it, he’s given us a couple of free tickets to fairs and concerts on behalf of his company – more money saved for us! So, because our friend is doing well, we are doing better, too.

Oh, this friend is also much more relaxed right now, so he’s better company as well.

7. Work for It!

So, all you have to do is sit on your ass, feeling grateful, and all the goodies will just fall into your lap, right?

NO. You still have to work for what you want. For example, if you want a new friend, how can you ever meet them if you just sit at home, alone? You’ll still have to go out and socialize to meet new people. Or if you want a killer body, you can’t just sit on the couch, drinking beer and eating junk food. No matter how grateful you’re feeling for your beer belly, you’re not gonna get those killer abs unless you actually change your diet, go out, and exercise.

Gratitude, or the Law of Attraction in general, isn’t a miracle maker. You still have to work for it. Gratitude is a mere helper: it helps you shift your mindset so you can welcome abundance into your life and perhaps notice new opportunities you otherwise wouldn’t. It helps you become an emotional match for what you want but it ain’t gonna do the work for you.

You reap what you sow. For example, I mentioned that friend of ours who finally succeeded. My hubby and I had been helping him and standing beside him while he was struggling. If we hadn’t been good friends for him, do you think he’d give us all those freebies and freelance job opportunities now? No. We were blessed because he was blessed but we still deserved those blessings.

Be Grateful for… Feeling Grateful!

I am so grateful for discovering the power of gratitude. Even if none of that Law of Attraction stuff worked, I would still be cultivating gratitude, simply for the sheer joy of it. Feeling grateful makes me so happy. I have also become more alert and aware. These days, it’s easier for me to spot opportunities and seize them!

So… go out, work for it, and make those things happen – with love, joy, and gratitude!

By simply expressing gratitude for all the good things that surround you, you can actually invite more of that goodness into your life. For example, I’ve recently attracted more money into my life, simply by switching my focus from my lack of money into the abundance that was already surrounding me. As a result, I changed my mindset from that of wanting, neediness and scarcity into that of love, abundance and gratitude. With this mindset, I was actually able to invite financial abundance into my life.

In this post, I’ll tell you why it works and how I did it. In my next post, I’ll give you a few practical tips on how to cultivate the attitude of gratitude.

Why Gratitude Is a Powerful Force

If you’re familiar with the Law of Attraction, you probably already know that cultivating gratitude is simply one way of using the Law of Attraction.

For those of you who are not familiar with the term, Law of Attraction simply means that your thoughts influence the world around you. For example, if you enter the mindset of abundance and imagine yourself living in the midst of it, you’ll actually attract it into your life. If you enter the mindset of self-confidence and learn to love and appreciate yourself, you will radiate this appreciation, and as a result, other people will also appreciate you and you’ll gain more friends.

If you search the web for Law of Attraction, you’ll find lots of instructions on how to use it. Most of these instructions will tell you that if you can visualize your life the way you want it to be, this visualization will begin to actually manifest in your physical life.

There’s a problem with this, however. You can’t just visualize some stuff or repeat some affirmations. You’ll have to go for it emotionally, you have to really believe in what you visualize. No matter how hard you think or visualize, if you actually can’t feel that way and send that vibe out into the universe, you actually won’t attract anything into your life. If you’re dirt poor and keep chanting “I’m rich”, without actually believing it and entering the mindset of richness, you can keep chanting for the rest of your life and it won’t do you any good.

But how to begin with the Law of Attraction, then, so that you can actually believe in what you visualize?

Gratitude to the Rescue!

Gratitude is the answer. You can choose to cultivate the attitude of gratitude, without having to visualize something that feels completely out of your reach. Gratitude works on what you already have. No matter how hard your life sucks, you can still find some things to be grateful for.

The attitude of gratitude will automatically shift your mindset into that of abundance. Instead of focusing on all the things you don’t have, you’ll focus on the things you have. This way, you will automatically shift your focus and mindset from scarcity into that of abundance – the exact mindset you need to make the Law of Attraction work.

How I Attracted Money into My Life

I’m a poor college student and my husband is unemployed. It probably goes without saying that by the end of the month, we have absolutely nothing on our bank accounts.

About four months ago, I began cultivating gratitude. I realized that no matter how poor we are, we always have our basic needs met: we can enjoy some healthy and delicious food, we have a roof on our heads, access to the internet and computer games, plenty of Star Trek to watch… Yes, we’re geeks, so internet and Star Trek are definitely included on our list of basic needs.

I also realized that in addition to having our basic needs met, we can actually enjoy many luxuries in our life: loving friends and families, beautiful nature, the chance to go out and have some fun, and so on. There are so many things in our life we can enjoy for free or almost for free. I also noticed we eat very well, definitely better than most other students I know.

I also realized something very important: Somehow, we’ve always managed to miraculously get some extra money when we’ve totally ran out of it and it would be two weeks till payday. I’ve found an extra €20 bill somewhere, our families have decided to give us some money just because they felt like it, I had enough AdSense earnings to withdraw them, our local grocery store sent us a free bonus coupon, and so on.

When I realized this, I began trusting the universe. I knew that we will never go hungry, that although we may have no money, our needs will always be met. I realized I was surrounded with abundance! This made me feel so grateful it was overwhelming! I began making a mental note of all those small things that made me feel so grateful.

The Results

Like I said, I began consciously cultivating this mindset of abundance and gratitude about four months ago. About two months ago, I began noticing the results.

We were suddenly getting more money: AdSense began paying a little better, a friend of ours finally hit it career-wise and was able to pay his debts back (we always help out friends by borrowing money if they need it more than we do), a little hobby project of ours finally became profitable, and so on.

More notably, we began getting so many free tickets to fairs, concerts, shows, and other happenings we actually didn’t have the time to go to all of them! We’ve had so many interesting things happening in our lives. We’ve been able to attend some big fairs and gigs we wouldn’t have been able to attend if we actually had to pay for the tickets.

What’s so notable about this? Like I said, I began noticing how we can actually enjoy a rich, full life even though we’re poor. It’s as if the universe picked up on this particular vibe and began sending more free stuff on our way!

It’s no wonder we got so much free stuff but relatively little extra money. You see, I’m not particularly interested in money just for the sake of it. I simply view money as a mere tool to get what I want. The universe picked up on that vibe, too, by skipping the money part and sending us the things and goodies we wanted. I’m actually feeling like Gladstone Gander here!

As you can see, nothing dramatic happened. We didn’t win the lottery and we’re still cheap, but our life has taken the turn for better. This is a slow start but it’s a good thing, because all of this is something I can actually believe in getting. This has built my trust in the universe and the Law of Attraction, and I know this trust will eventually bring some bigger things on our way.

How to Begin Cultivating Gratitude

Start by identifying a specific thing you want to invite into your life (money, friends, love, experiences, etc.) or simply decide to cultivate gratitude in general. Either way, it seems to work.

Next, take a look at your life and identify the things that make you happy. The things that make you feel grateful. These can be very small things! Even if you genuinely feel your life totally sucks at the moment, you can still find something to be grateful for. You woke up this morning, right? At least you’re alive. Appreciate it. Got nothing else to eat than a cup of Ramen? Hey, at least you have food. Feel grateful for it. Have no money? You can take a walk in the park for free. You can still experience the beauty. And the list goes on…

In my next post, I’ll give you a few practical tips on how to cultivate gratitude, so stay tuned! Until then… what do you feel grateful for today?